Hi Mamas! I’m Courtney, the heart behind Blury Photography, and today, I want to dive deep into a topic that’s incredibly close to my heart – preparing your older children for the arrival of a new baby. It’s a journey filled with emotions, adjustments, and a whole lot of love. Through my lens and my experiences as a mama, I want to share with you how you can not only prepare your children but also create meaningful family memories during this special time.
I remember when I first found out I was expecting my second bub. As I was holding that positive pregnancy test, about a million different feelings washed over me. But at the forefront was feeling super worried and anxious for my eldest. See, for the last few years it had been just her, her dad and I. Was I going to be able to give her enough attention? Would they get along? Was my big girl going to be missing out?
And then my worry was eased somewhere along the line, when speaking with my midwife. She reminded me that toddlers are extremely adaptable! And although their whole world was about to change, it would be for the better.
Almost a year and a half in, I know for sure that she is right. Here are some of the things I kept in mind when preparing for that second baby. As well as a few things I wish I did differently! Hopefully it helps x
The Journey Begins
Welcoming a new baby is such an exciting chapter in your family’s story. But as a mama, I understand that it can also be a time of mixed emotions, especially for your older children. They might be excited, curious, or even a bit anxious about the changes that lie ahead. It’s essential to approach this transition with warmth and empathy, just as you would with your camera ready to capture those genuine smiles and tender moments.
Start the Conversation Early
Preparing your older children for a new sibling starts with open and honest communication. Share your joy and anticipation with them, and let them know that their feelings matter. Encourage questions and address any concerns they may have. It’s all part of the beautiful narrative of your family’s journey, one I’m honored to document through my photography.
Involve Them in the Journey
One way to make your older children feel a part of this journey is to involve them in the preparations. Let them help decorate the nursery or choose a special gift for the new baby. These moments are precious and make for fantastic photographs, capturing their excitement and the love they’re already extending to their sibling.
Capture the Bond in the Making
As a photographer specializing in Motherhood, Newborn, and Maternity Imagery, I’ve had the privilege of witnessing the unique connections that form within families. The anticipation of a new baby brings out the most beautiful emotions in everyone. I encourage you to let me capture these moments – the smiles, the hugs, the shared stories by the crib – as you prepare for this new addition to your family. These photographs will be lifelong treasures, reminding you of the love that grew even before your baby arrived.
Special Moments with Mum and Dad
It’s natural for older children to have moments of wanting extra attention from Mum and Dad during this transition. Before your new baby’s arrival, dedicate some quality one-on-one time with each of your older children. Whether it’s a day at the park, baking cookies together, or simply cuddling up with a book. You could even include your big kids in your maternity shoot. These photos will serve as a reminder that, even with a new baby, the love you have for each of your children is unwavering.
Create a “Big Sibling” Ritual
Rituals can provide a sense of stability and excitement during times of change. Consider creating a special “big sibling” ritual that your older children can look forward to. It could be something as simple as reading a bedtime story to the baby each night or having a designated day for a fun outing with the new sibling. These rituals not only create meaningful memories but also help build a strong sibling bond from the very beginning.
Embrace the Imperfections
As mamas, we know that life is beautifully imperfect, and siblings don’t always get along. There may be moments of jealousy or frustration. That’s okay. It’s all part of the journey, and these moments can be just as meaningful as the ones filled with smiles and laughter. As a photographer, I specialize in capturing raw, authentic emotions. So don’t shy away from these moments – let me document the real, unfiltered connection between your children.
The Big Day Arrives
When the big day finally arrives, the arrival of your new baby, it’s important to include your older children in the experience. Let them meet their sibling and be part of this magical moment. As a photographer, I’d love be there to capture these first encounters, the awe in their eyes, and the tenderness in their touch. These photographs will tell a beautiful story of sibling love that will last a lifetime.
Something that I personally learnt, was not to just trust these moments to just anyone. Something like a first meeting is so special. And if this is a moment you want to have documented forever, don’t leave it to chance. When I was preparing for my own two to meet, the ‘record button’ wasn’t properly pressed on my phone, and now and forever I have missed documenting this moment. This is something I really wish I had done differently!
Cherish the Little Moments
In the whirlwind of caring for a newborn and adjusting to a new family dynamic, it’s easy to forget to capture those everyday moments that make your family unique. I encourage you to keep your camera handy and document the small, intimate moments that happen naturally – a shared giggle, a helping hand, or a gentle hug.
Creating Lasting Memories with Blury Photgraphy
At Blury Photography, my team and I are dedicated to creating lasting memories for families like yours. We understand the beauty of imperfection, the power of connection, and the significance of genuine moments. Our photography style is warm, passionate, and personal – just like the love that flows within your family.
Whether it’s a candid shot of your children playing together, a tender moment between siblings, or a family portrait filled with laughter and love, our goal is to capture the essence of your family’s journey. We want you to look back at these photographs and feel the warmth and emotion of these precious moments all over again.
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